Single Parenting and “The Talk”

by Migdalia Rivera

Is your penis awake before you are?

This was one of the questions my tween’s teacher discussed during a group advisory at my son’s all boys school. He said it was the weirdest talk he ever had. He couldn’t believe the word “penis” was coming out of his teacher’s mouth.

I, on the other hand, wasn’t surprised. I had signed a school waiver to allow him to be part of the “Birds and the Bees” discussion at school, what I call “The Talk”.

Although I have spoken to my tween about puberty, his hormones, and the changes he is sure to experience, I knew that hearing it from another adult, a responsible adult, would hammer it into my tween’s head.

The school selected a male teacher to conduct “The Talk”. Because teachers and parents are very involved in this school, I already knew the teacher. He is a responsible man, someone my son can look up to. The words coming out of his mouth would have impact, especially for boys being raised by single Moms, like mine.

When my son came home, he was excited. He wanted to tell me all about The Talk. He explained how the teacher made jokes, how he was scared to raise his hand and ask questions and how he was surprised that women did not have an adam’s apple. He then told me,

Mom, I enjoyed The Talk but I rather ask you questions.

Those words were like a salve to my ears, in more ways than one. You see, I worry. I worry that my sons will think I do not understand them. I worry that they will go to male friends for advise. I worry that they do not have a man in the home to emulate. And I worry and worry and worry. It’s part of being a parent, yes I know; however, a single parent, a single Mother of boys, has the added stress of having to raise a boy into a man, regardless if the father is involved or not.

Let’s talk! Are you a single parent? Have you had similar worries? Let us know in a comment!

Photo Credit


Cut Your Own Hair with Philips Norelco (#Giveaway)

As a single Mom with two boys it’s fallen to me to take them to get their haircuts at the Barbershop. I admit the first few times I took Karl, I didn’t know the names of the styles or what was in style at the moment. I just knew he needed a haircut! Once I […]

My Teen Was Awarded a 4 Year Scholarship to Wheaton College in Massachusetts!

I’ve made many mistakes in my life. Some, I wish I could take back. Yet two changed my life forever and gave me my biggest blessings, my sons. Today, I will not focus on those errors, or even who I selected as the fathers. Today, I will forget the former things; I will not dwell […]

Just the Reason I Want My Son to Be Remembered…NOT!

My ten year old recently connected with a young girl from his Pre-K class.  She calls him constantly because she has a crush on him. He enjoys the attention and so picks up every single call. One day while talking to Andrew, she tells him she found another one of their Pre-K friends. She said he […]

My Teen’s First Date

My sons are 1st generation Latinos. They were born here. I wasn’t. As you can imagine, this has caused some conflict, particularly with dating. When my oldest was 10, I told him he would not be allowed to date until he was 16 and he never forgot. The day he turned sixteen was HUGE. It […]

Wordless Wednesday: When Did You Know He Was Father Material?

Teddy, our youngest puppy, tends to cry a lot. I think it’s because he was taken from his mother at a very young age.  At those moments, Teddy runs to my teen. He’s Teddy’s favorite. He coddles him, as you can see by the picture below. To his chagrin, I snapped a picture. I couldn’t […]

#SabrosoSaturday: A Momentous Occasion, Andy’s Birthday!

It’s Sabroso Saturday (Translation: Tasty Saturday)! The day when we share recipes that have helped us stretch our budget, our imagination and our taste buds, without sacrificing our health. ******************** This weekend the boys and I are celebrating the youngest 10th birthday. Although he will always be my baby, he’s no longer a little boy. He’s […]

Children are not Mini Adults

Image: Simon Howden / My sons are pretty mature for their age. I don’t coddle or baby them, not because I don’t want to, but because as a single mother, I don’t have the time.  I never realized just how much I treated them like mini adults until recently when I was talking to my youngest. […]

My Man Child

Karl, my teen, passed a milestone this summer. He turned 16. We didn’t celebrate with a Sweet Sixteen, as girls do. We had a STRONG Sixteen, celebrating his strength and his journey to manhood.   We had family and friends over for a small, intimate party to allow for conversation. It was amazing! I saw my teen enjoying fun […]

YouCake: The Perfect Customized Cake Topper

For My Man Child‘s birthday, we wanted to do something different. We wanted a cake that would be a centerpiece,  that would make Karl’s birthday unique. We searched high and low, checking bakeries and doing google searches yet could not find anything that said, “This is IT!” With just a few weeks before his birthday,  YouCake offered […]