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I’m a Latina Blogger

by Migdalia Rivera

I’m a Latina Blogger. I work in social media. I develop and deliver media marketing strategies for a range of companies and products.

This is the explanation I give others when I’m asked what I do for a living. Normally, I get a quizzical look before the person bombards me with a variety of questions. I don’t mind. I’ve found readers and freelance jobs this way, so I am always happy to oblige.

However, just this past week, I was speaking with someone who surprised me with his comments. I met him in the neighborhood while eating breakfast. He seemed pleasant enough and so we struck up a conversation. He asked what I do for a living. I mentioned I work from home without going in depth. Similar to Kimberly Coleman’s recent experience, his reply shocked me.

Oh so you don’t work. It must be nice to have a husband who can take care of you.

I’m pretty sure he was fishing, trying to find out if I was married, but his reply vexed me to no end.

Again, I stated I work from home.

He looked at me and said,

I understand. I know housework can be very hard work.

I was deeply  offended. His response seemed antiquated, at best, and offensive, at worst. Now this doesn’t mean to say that being a stay at home Mom is not a job in and of itself. I, myself, was a stay at home mom for sometime and I know first hand how difficult it is. Additionally, as Kimberly stated in her post,

Work is work.  All moms (whether they work inside of the home, outside of the home or a combination thereof) who have kids living at home with them are workers.

I agree. However, the impression this man gave me was that he could not believe a woman had the abilty to work from home and earn money. It boggled my mind!

We went back and forth for sometime but I could tell he did not understand or would not budge from his stance. I would like to note now that we were conversing in Spanish. Could some of what I was saying have gotten lost in translation? I don’t think so but I will give him the benefit of the doubt.  He was an older gentleman, well dressed, and appeared intelligent.  

I want to believe that this scenario would not have gone differently if I was a man. Yet, I can’t. It’s not the first time I have met resistance to my “work at home” status. Could it be because of my gender? Or perhaps because I am a single parent? I’m not sure.

What I am sure of is that there will always be people who do not understand, who place people in boxes and who will stifle me if I allow them to. I, however, am sure of what I am.

I’m a Latina Blogger. I work in social media. I develop and deliver media marketing strategies for a range of companies and products.

And I am darn good at it!

 

Let’s talk! Have you ever faced resistance to a lifestyle choice? Let us know in a comment!  

About the Author

Migdalia Rivera, also known as Ms. Latina in social media, is a single Latina mother of a teen, tween and 2 Australian Shepherds. When not blogging, or chasing after her energetic bunch, she connects influential bloggers with brands and PR agencies via her blogger network, Stiletto Media.

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